Keeping positive.

Life can get hard sometimes and the only way to get through it is to stay positive and have a good attitude. Call it karma or whatever you want but being positive is actually really healthy for you both physically, and mentally. So what if you just lost your job or your cat died? Losing your job may give you the chance to finally try new things and to pursue your dream job. Your cat dieing...well maybe it was Fluffy's time. Being upbeat and happy will draw others to you and give your self-esteem a huge boost. Your trials in life can only make you stronger. Believe me I know. I had someone very, very close to me commit suicide and since then my life has not been the same. It has actually been a living nightmare.The only way I am able to get through the tough times and hard days is to stay positive. I know it sounds easy and I am making it sound like a fix-all but really it is not. It helps a hundred times more but it is not the answer to everything. There are some times in life where even if you are the most positive person ever it is still dang hard to get through. Just remember, If you think you can, or if you think you can't you're right. Being a teenager and having all the crappy drama and hormones going on is really hard. The only way I was able to get through my junior high years was to focus on the academics and not on the social. Wow, that makes me sound like a dweeb. I have and had a great social life but I really didn't and don't care about all the extra drama going on. Turning a deaf ear on the gossip and rude things will help you stay positive, keep you out of most of the drama, and help you to become a confident young person. Boys like confident girls and girls like confident guys.
Whoever said, "Confidence is key." Is a fricking genius.
Well I am done spewing my smarts today. If you have any questions or need any advice please comment and ask. I don't judge. Okay maybe I do but I have good answers and I won't tell you that I am judging you. I promise. I only ask that you don't ask me a dumb questions. That's all for today folks.

-Staci Lyn

What every smart girl should look for in a guy

The thing with most teenage girls today-including myself- is we start to like the wrong guys. Over my very few years in the business of liking boys I have come up with some rules that help me pick out the good guys from the jerks. I encourage you to fallow them and promise they will never stand in your way of meeting a good guy. Rule number one: Does he share the same standers as you do? Meaning; is he a guy who would do something you have decided is wrong or something you don't ever want to do. This can mean drugs, or drinking or even something as little as the way he talks. It is important to see if the guy you are interested in or that is interested in you lives up to your standers. Rule number two: Would you be okay with your parents of grandparents meeting him? Is he someone you would be ashamed to bring home? Would you be embarrassed by him? Rule number three: Is he a good guy? Does he treat you and others around him and you well? Is he nice or is he always nice? Is there anyone he is not nice to? An important thing to look for in a guy is how he treats not only you but your friends. If he is not nice to your friends they won't want you to like him or to hang out with you when he is around. Not only do you want him to treat you and your friends right but also everyone. If he is a bully he is not worth your time. Rule number four: Is he a good example to you? Is he encouraging about your grades? If the guy tells you school can wait or that you should skip school with him he does not have your best interests at heart. A guy who is willing to encourage you or even help you with school work or any work that is important to you is a guy who really does care about you. And last but not least Rule number five: Is he a gentleman? Does he help you out of the car or carry your stuff for you? Does he walk you to class and care about the relationship rules you set with him? (I will write a short post about that some other time.) Does he fallow those rules. A guy who is willing to do so is a good guy.
Remember these rules are about what is in your best interest and what is good for you. Also guys this is some good advice for you to fallow. If you fallow the rules a girl sets for herself then she will be way more willing to date you.
Hope I helped.

-Staci Lyn
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